New Body, New Identity
Pregnancy is a process that makes many women happy. In fact, it was thought that estrogen and progesterone hormones protect pregnant women from negative emotions. However, recent research has shown that this is not true. Studies in the United States found that one out of every ten women had depression during pregnancy.
Pregnancy is a period of time, which includes both hope and development and a period of that women can be fragile. Many women may experience emotional fluctuations that they cannot control during this period.
Each couple wants to have a baby for their own reasons: in order to fulfill their childhood dreams, to satisfy another person (wife, first child, parents), to increase marriage satisfaction, etc. All of these reasons have very important effects on pregnancy, birth and mother-infant relationship. Although pregnancy may be the fruit of true love, be unplanned / poorly timed, or as a result of expensive and debilitating infertility treatment, the main concerns in the process are the same: How is it going to be? What about birth? What about the baby? What kind of mother will I be?
From the first moment she learns of her pregnancy, the mother may feel as if she has lost part of her freedom. She has to pay attention to what she eats, what she drinks, how she acts. With these restrictions, there are concerns about whether the baby is good, whether she / he will be healthy, whether the delivery is comfortable, whether she will be a good mother or not. At the same time there will be some uncomfortable situations during pregnancy: Nausea, exhaustion, oversleeping, changing a mood, etc.
Each trimester brings its own difficulties
In the first trimester, since she is an inexperienced pregnant woman, she may not be able to distinguish what she should be doing and can, therefore, impose many restrictions on herself. Most of the pregnant women may be worried about miscarriage since they occur in the first weeks. She may have nightmares about this. Bilateral and triple screening tests for child development during the second trimester may cause stress for the mother. If suspicious results are found in these tests, further examinations are made. If mental retardation is found, the parents have to decide whether to continue the pregnancy. All this involves the risk of losing the baby, and therefore affects the couple’s psychologies negatively.
The third trimester is the period in which the mother’s body changes and the labor is coming soon.
With her growing belly and breasts, the mother begins to see herself only as a mother rather than a woman. The breasts are filled with milk and become an object of motherhood and breastfeeding. This period is a shock in the sexual identity of women. Sexual intercourse is difficult to return to normal before six weeks after birth. Their wife-husband roles in marriage turn into mother and father roles. The differentiation of roles is a transition period in marriage and may not be easy for each couple.
The friendship relationships of the pregnant woman may also differ.
If there is no other pregnant woman around her, she may feel isolated. They can have a closer relationship with their friends who have children and stay away from friends who have not.
Her relationship with her parents may change after getting pregnant.
She is no longer just their child; is an adult who is prepared to have children. If the pregnant woman loses her mother, pregnancy may be a period in which the lost mother will be missed more than normal.